Shout out to my Momma!!!
I often wondered how she did it. Raising 3 kids while pursuing her career in a town filled with the daily hassle of its own.
Then as I got older and watched her, I realized joggling motherhood with a career is no easy feat!
I asked her once “Mum how did you do it?” She replied brightly “The fact that I wanted to give my kids the best things in life kept me moving”.
I adore her no doubt but I figured I only watched mama handle life through rose coloured glasses, all these years I was oblivious to the fact that she carried on with so much sacrifice and failed to enjoy life as much as she would have loved to.
A career mum is often caught between giving her best to two of some of the most important aspects of her life.
You wonder if taking a really demanding job is the best decision and you feel guilty when your hectic work schedule clashes with those amazing family times you would rather spend at your kid’s next recitation or school play.
Then you compensate yourself with the thoughts of a promising career and all it has to offer, convincing yourself it’s for the good of everyone, telling yourself this affords you the opportunity to provide your kids with the best education and every other goodies of life.
Here are a few tips on how to enjoy career fulfilment without compromising on the joy of a wonderful motherhood experience:
- A Super Hero needs rest too:
Every super mum needs to make time for adequate rest after a hectic week. Treat yourself to a well-deserved Spa treat, take the kids to granny’s and make out time to pamper yourself at the saloon. Hang out with friends or go on a dinner date with the boo at some of the best hotel restaurants in town. The Crockpot Restaurant located at the lobby level of the Sheraton Lagos Hotel, Ikeja offers delicious international buffet meal options.
Make a hotel reservation and indulge in a week of finesse and comfort at one of the luxury accommodations in Lagos or 5 star hotels in Abuja with the boo. By all means, keep your leisure life lit!!
- Do not guilt trip yourself:
Wallowing in self-pity never helped anyone, you only put yourself up for an emotional meltdown or outburst. This isn’t good for your family life and work.
Make a conscious effort to be as cheerful as possible, since you have a limited amount of time to spend with your kids daily.
This leaves you and your family members in high spirit and the kids are sure to remember their mum in a good light throughout the day.
- Don’t be afraid to ask for help:
Are you planning to take a business trip? Don’t be afraid to have a trusted friend or family member look after the kids when you have an important errand or appointment but if truly have no one to cater to kids while you are away, take advantage of the provision of domestic helps and nanny services provided by some of the best hotels in Nigeria.
Teach the kids to do certain small tasks as they grow older. This way you end up with well-trained kids and relieve yourself of certain tasks so you can concentrate on work.
- Set your priorities accordingly:
Learning to prioritize helps you break your workload and errands into smaller defeat-able tasks. Create little sticky notes with a priority list of things you have to do daily and tick off the most important ones.
- Avoid procrastination as much as you can:
Telling yourself that an important task can be left until later is just a way of heaping up more workload. Check their homework, do the kids laundry and prepare their lunch boxes for the next day.
Do the things you can as soon as you are able to, at this rate you will get things done in time to get some rest.
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